I Don’t Abandon Me: New Decade Standards for Love, Work, Purpose & Peace
This episode is a marker moment. I recently stepped into a new decade, and with Lunar New Year approaching, I’m using this season as a mirror, not a prediction. A pause to ask: What am I still carrying that I don’t want to bring with me?
Inside this conversation, I share what I’m shedding from my 50s in four life areas where self-abandonment hides in plain sight: dating, work, purpose, and time. We talk about the subtle cost of staying in situations that steal your peace, and why the standard for this next chapter is simple: I don’t abandon me.
You’ll also get a journal prompt to ground the episode, plus a practical 24-hour challenge to help you move from inspiration to action. If you’ve been craving clarity, stronger standards, and a softer nervous system while you evolve, this one is for you.
In this episode, we cover:
The real cost of peace-stealing situations (and how to spot them early)
Dating patterns that look like hope but feel like self-abandonment
How to stop shrinking at work and start collecting your “value receipts”
Stepping out of scripts you didn’t write and reconnecting to purpose
Presence as power: releasing anxiety disguised as control
A simple 24-hour action that builds self-trust fast
Journal Prompt
“Where have I been abandoning myself… and what would change if I stopped?”
Your 24-Hour Challenge
Pick one area: dating, work, purpose, or time.
Write what you’re shedding, what you’re choosing, and take one step in the next 24 hours.
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💼 Remember: Until next time, my fabulous friends and self-care warriors… keep loving you, protect your peace, and hold your own damn purse.
And I’ll meet you right back here in two weeks — same space, same heart, new ways to choose you. 💖
